Not goodbye

Jerry: “Charlotte, those are bright colors. How did you choose all those colors?”

Charlotte: “I love where we live, and I love sharing it with my family.”

Fenner: “I appreciate mom because she helps me through all my problems.”

Ellen: “I made macaroni and cheese!”

Me, singing Hannah Montana after Ellen spilled her entire bowl of macaroni and cheese all over the floor: “Everybody makes mistakes, everybody has those days, everybody knows what, what I’m talkin’ ’bout, everybody gets that way …”

These quotes are all just from today, and each one is a reason to celebrate. Each one represents a profound shift away from where we were twelve weeks ago when we started this journey.

Vicki guided her own family toward “radical faith” as she calls it, and somehow she was able to gift that to me too. When I took her class, I felt a kind of radical faith in her approach. It fit me. It was what I had been looking for. Thoughtful, rational, reasonable, kind, loving, and effective — and super-structured.

My friends who follow this blog wonder how I did it. How did I find the strength to stick with it? Because, although this was hard, the alternative was so much harder. Twelve weeks ago we were in a slow downward spiral. I could feel it everyday. I felt helpless, and there was no way I was going back to that.

Plus, in just one day, Vicki served up a big, fat awareness sandwich. For me at least, awareness grabs hold of my brain and doesn’t let go. Once I have it, I cannot ignore it. At that point, I had no choice but to follow through.

And now here we are. We’ve finished the 12-week course, but, as they say at many graduations, this is only the beginning.

Jerry must feel that too. He came home from work today and said, “I listened to disc one in the car. … It was a good review of say nothing, do nothing.”

Yeah, I remember that…

ps Anyway, this can’t be the end. After our vacation, I have to tell you how it goes with introducing contributions and problem solving at family meeting! (Plus any other juicy tidbits along the way.)

So — I’ll be back!

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2 Comments on “Not goodbye”

  1. Emma Says:

    I have been amazed and inspired by your blog and your family’s journey. I too don’t know how you managed to stick with it and not fall back into old habits. I seem to have a week limit on trying to change things…I will keep checking back for updates, let us know how you are doing!

  2. Vicki Says:

    Thank You. To each and every one of your amazing family for letting us sit in on this transformational journey.

    Awareness. A Powerful word that creates Powerful change. I, like you, feel Awareness pull and tug and drag me towards my best self – and oh God, what a ride.

    Have a fabulous vacation – I will miss you at Boot Camp, but I will see you at the next one (fingers crossed here).

    Please do fill us in on your adventure. I will be counting the days. LOL

    Much Love to you all – Vicki

    PS – Jerry, thank you for your note. You are an amazing husband and father. Your girls are so very lucky to have you. Revel in their journey towards becoming powerful, strong, insightful, sensitive and loving young women. They are on their way.

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